Is Changing Yourself Insecurity?

We often hear, “Be yourself.” But what if yourself isn’t who you want to be? What if you want to grow, evolve, and change? Does that mean you’re insecure?

The Truth About Change

Changing yourself isn’t inherently insecure—it’s human. Growth is natural. We aren’t meant to stay the same forever. The real question is: Are you changing out of self-love or self-rejection?

Self-love: Changing because you want to become better, stronger, or happier.

Self-rejection: Changing because you think you’re not good enough as you are.

When Change Comes from a Healthy Place

If you’re working out, learning new skills, or evolving your mindset because it excites you—that’s not insecurity, that’s self-improvement. Growth is healthy.

When Change Is a Red Flag

However, if you’re constantly changing to fit someone else’s expectations, or you feel like you’re never enough—pause. Ask yourself if you’re running from yourself rather than evolving into your best version.

The Bottom Line

Change is good when it’s intentional and rooted in self-care. Insecurity isn’t about changing—it’s about why you feel the need to. Love yourself through every version of you.